Out of all the tests your partner can pass, this is probably the most important one. According to Jian, most people can pass the desirability test because it's easier to relate to people on a physical level. "But it doesn’t go to the next level which is great communication with one another," he says. We need healthy communication in order to understand each other and connect on a deeper level.
As Grant Brenner, psychiatrist and author of Relationship Sanity tells Bustle, it's important to make attempts to "compassionately engage in authentic conversation about intimacy" in your relationship. This should be done without pressuring your partner to talk or putting them on the spot. "It's not a pass-fail test but their response (and responsiveness) can help gauge readiness to begin the process of working on the relationship or needing to give it more time," he says
Again, these relationship tests aren't about doing something in order to see if your partner passes or fails. Relationships require trust. If you feel like you need to test your partner in any way, you may want to think about why. Instead, these "tests" are things you should be observing as your relationship progresses. If you're on the same page about things like finances, making each other a priority, and communication, you have the keys to make your relationship last.
